Episode 19

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15th Apr 2025

Courage and Connection: John Lee Dumas on Military Life and Mental Health

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From Military Service to Entrepreneurship: John’s Journey of Resilience and Transition

In this compelling episode, John shares his journey from being an Army officer to becoming an entrepreneur post-9/11. He reflects on the impacts of 9/11, his service in Iraq, and the emotional and psychological toll of his military experience, which later manifested as PTSD. John discusses his transition back to civilian life, his battle with mental health, and how military principles guided his entrepreneurial ventures. The conversation highlights the importance of mental health support, the power of sharing stories, and the significance of surrounding oneself with a trustworthy support network. Elaine Lindsay emphasizes the need to ask for help and the value of sharing burdens among trusted companions.

00:00 Introduction and Background

00:23 The Impact of 9/11 on Military Career

02:23 Deployment and Mental Health Challenges

03:23 Transition to Civilian Life and PTSD

06:03 Entrepreneurial Lessons from Military Experience

08:51 The Importance of Mental Health Support

13:49 Final Thoughts and Gratitude

Bio:

John Lee Dumas is the founder and host of Entrepreneurs On Fire, the first and still only daily podcast in the world that interviews the most successful and inspiring Entrepreneurs. With over 160 million listens of his 4500+ episodes, JLD has turned Entrepreneurs On Fire into a media empire and is just getting started.

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suicide ideation, and mental health.

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Some of the subject matter could be

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grieving or having mental health problems.

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hotline for mental health services.

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conversation so you feel safe

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enough to speak up and ask for help.

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So now let's start the show.

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I am so glad to be back.

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I met my next guest back

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Actually, he was just starting

out as a podcaster, and I noted

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even then he was dedicated,

incredibly kind and in all honesty.

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To this day, he's still one

of the most genuine good guys

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he could ever hope to meet.

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I'm honored to bring you John Lee

Dumas, a renowned entrepreneur and

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podcaster best known for his show,

entrepreneurs on Fire before his

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success in the podcasting world.

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Dumas served in the US Army for

approximately eight years, including

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a 13 month deployment in Iraq.

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As an Armor platoon leader,

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John graduated from Providence College

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as an officer in the Army.

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His commissioning class was actually

the first to enter service following

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the events of September 11th, 2001.

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Initially, he wanted to join

the Army Corps of Engineers.

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But Dumas assignment shifted to armor

due to administrative disruptions

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caused by the nine 11 attacks.

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In 2003, John deployed to Iraq

leading a tank platoon of 16

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men through areas such as R

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having not ha,

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sorry if I've pronounced those wrong.

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Reflecting on his military experience

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through areas such as Ramadi and Hania.

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Reflecting on his military experience,

John has highlighted the importance of

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making timely decisions, emphasizing

that a good decision now is better

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than a great decision leader.

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He also underscores the value of

humility and learning from experienced

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team members, noting his reliance

on his platoon sergeant's expertise

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during his early days as a leader.

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These leadership lessons from his military

service have profoundly influenced

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John's entrepreneurial journey shaping

his approach to business and mentorship.

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I was lucky enough to reconnect

with John in January at Pod Fest in

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Florida, and he was gracious enough

to agree to come on the podcast.

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So without further ado, let me

introduce you to John Lee Dumas.

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John, I talked about the fact that

you were commissioned, I believe

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after 2002, and yours was the.

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First class to enter service following

the events of September 11th.

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I believe that is true.

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2001?

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Yes.

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Wow.

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Wow.

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You were, originally you wanted to be

Army Corps of Engineers, but because of

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the disruptions to do with the nine 11

attacks, you actually shifted to armor.

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John Lee Dumas: Yeah, that's a

pretty interesting and quick story

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that I'll tell you just 'cause I

think it, really reminds us of how

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traumatizing that, that day was.

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But in the summer of 2001, I was going

into my senior year, so we do what's

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called six Weeks of Advance camp,

and that's training up in Washington

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specifically Fort Irwin, Washington

states a little south of Tacoma.

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And it was a really great experience.

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I actually.

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Performed very well.

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I became what's called a top 4% cadet.

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And the reason why that's relevant is

because it gave me the choice to choose

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what branch I wanted to get into.

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And so I chose engineers.

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And I thought I was all

wrapped up with that.

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And then of course, nine 11 happens and

it was a terrible experience overall.

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But then we get called in a week after

and our commander says to us like, Hey.

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This is gonna sound pretty

crazy, but it's true.

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The part of the Pentagon that

got hit by the plane was the ROTC

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departments and all of the records,

which by the way were all handwritten.

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At the time it wasn't even computerized.

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So we had sent in like paper

copies of that and that's how

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they processed it back then.

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So there was no backups.

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They said it just got.

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Vaporized.

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Like it just completely,

it was a total loss.

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So what they were doing now was

they were going to essentially

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randomly assign everybody.

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'cause they just didn't have time

to go back and do this because they

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had other things to worry about.

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Of course, post nine 11.

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So that was the reason I got randomly

assigned armor and I survived.

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So I guess I can say that, things

could have been worse, but I'll tell

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you, it was it was a tough road.

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My,

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Elaine @TheDarkPollyanna:

I can only imagine.

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You led a tank platoon during

a 13 month deployment in Iraq.

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My father did 13 months in Aiden in

Yemen, and that was his first deployment.

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Wow.

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Back in 1953.

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Things have changed a little.

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What impact did that responsibility

and the high stress environment

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have on your own mental wellbeing?

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During and after service.

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John Lee Dumas: During you're locked

in because there's no alternative.

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You either just execute and

perform your mission or you're

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putting yourself, and even more

importantly, your soldier's at risk.

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So you just go into this weird head

space of just I'm just a soldier

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and I'm going to follow orders,

and I'm going to give orders and

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I'm going to execute the mission.

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Now there's a lot of things

that are going on under the

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scene, like below the surface.

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At that point as well.

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And for me I felt like the first

few years out of the Army when I had

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got, when I redeployed back to the

states and then I, reintegrated and

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I transitioned outta the military and

reintegrated into the civilian world.

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I was like, man, I must have dodged

a bullets, like both figuratively.

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'cause I dodged some bullets in Iraq,

but both figuratively and literally.

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I dodged a bullet emotionally because

I felt like I was not dealing with any

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PTSD that I was hearing was so common

and I felt very fortunate about that.

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Now, fast forward just about a year I

enroll into law school, and law school

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is a very high stress environment and

that high stress environment like.

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Just popped a screw in my

brain that I didn't even know

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was loose, and I experienced

severe PTSD, like severe trauma.

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I was depressed, I was sad.

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Like for me the feeling

was mostly just like.

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I just don't care about anything and

that's actually a terrifying feeling.

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'cause like when you care about stuff a

lot, like I used to I'm from New England

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so I used to watch the New England

Patriots football and I would live or die

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by the touchdowns, the wins, the losses.

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Like it would make my day a ruin my day.

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But I would be watching that them on ta.

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I'd be like, who cares?

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Like I have no emotion.

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About this.

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And that was my first tip off

of whoa, like something's wrong.

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And so it took, therapy,

it took medication, it took

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time to to get over the PTSD.

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But I was able to do it, it did

cause me to drop outta law school.

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I just couldn't take it emotionally.

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And I went on a four month

backpacking trip in India to just

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lose myself slash find myself.

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And, I had a good time.

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I wouldn't say I had any incredible

emotional experiences there.

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It was just a good trip

overall, but nothing crazy.

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And I'd say it wasn't really until

my early thirties that I really

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felt like I was able to shrug

it off, for the most part, it'll

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always be with me on some level.

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I still think of, the four soldiers

that were in my platoon of the 16.

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So 25% that gave the ultimate sacrifice.

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That's always gonna be with me, and

that's always gonna be part of, the

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emotional trauma and baggage that I carry.

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Elaine @TheDarkPollyanna: Absolutely.

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I call it the grief train.

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Once we board, we're there for life.

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We just sometimes get off at a stop and.

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Bring on a little more baggage.

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John Lee Dumas: That's a good analogy.

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Do we ever drop off

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Elaine @TheDarkPollyanna: baggage?

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Sadly, no.

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No, we

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John Lee Dumas: don't.

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That's too bad.

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Elaine @TheDarkPollyanna: Now

one thing I'll say, like you

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were in the army for eight years.

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John Lee Dumas: Yeah.

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Four active foreign in the reserves.

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Elaine @TheDarkPollyanna: Wow.

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And you have spoken even in your

entrepreneurial journey about

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learning to lead by leaning into

your platoon sergeant and making

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timely decisions under pressure.

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How do you think the military

training prepares or doesn't prepare

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soldiers for the emotional and

psychological toll of deployment?

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John Lee Dumas: One interesting thing

that I learned as an officer, and

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this was you know, from my platoon

sergeant, was that a good decision now

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is better than a great decision later.

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That's a very important thing for

entrepreneurs to absorb as well, because

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if you don't have that understanding

in the military you might die.

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'cause if you're paralyzed and you're

not making any decision, 'cause

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you're trying to think of this great

decision and it causes no decision

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right away, that is jeopardizing

your life and your soldier's life.

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So listen, make the best decision

you can right now and move forward.

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It might not be perfect.

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It might not be great.

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But a good decision now is better

than a great decision later.

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And I took that into entrepreneurship

because I see so many entrepreneurs and

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business owners, they're just paralyzed

with trying to come up with the best

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decision, the best action, the perfect

idea, and that never really exists.

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So they just stuck there.

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It's called like failure to launch.

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So for me, I never had that problem.

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'cause I learned that in the

military and I just make.

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Good decisions, really the best

decisions that I can make with the

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information that I have at that time.

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And then I drive forward

and I don't second guess it.

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And sometimes it's the wrong decision

and then I pivot, I adjust, I back up.

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I, make a change.

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And then I drive forward again.

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And for me, that's always allowed

me to keep moving forward.

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Elaine @TheDarkPollyanna: I think

that's such an important point.

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Because being a military brat myself,

I was around a lot of military

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people and the onus is always on you.

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The onus is always on you to

pick up dust off and continue.

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I come from Scotland and have half

Irish background, so picking yourself

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up and just going, it's all we knew.

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You just didn't have an option.

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And I think that's really important

because in the entrepreneurial world,

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we can not just be paralyzed, but we can

overthink and over research and overdo to

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the extent that we actually are stuck in

place forever, which is really not useful.

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And something you talk about in the

entrepreneurial world which I think.

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Is important for veterans.

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You know anyone who's been

trained for combat and high stakes

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decisions, you talk about shifting

your mindset to prioritize mental

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health and ask for help when needed.

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John Lee Dumas: You've gotta do it.

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That's one reason why I say you're the

average of the five people you spend

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the most time with, because those people

have to be individuals that you know,

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that you like, that you trust that will

tell you when something's off with you,

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and maybe can recommend, a resource or

a person that you can talk to, whether

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that be a therapist or fill in the blank.

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Like you need that support group around

you that you really do know and trust.

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It's such a critical part to

not just every entrepreneurial

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journey, but to the human journey.

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And I think you know this, Elaine, that

I end every one of my entrepreneurs on

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fire shows with that quote, you're the

average of the five people you spend the

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most time with because frankly, it's true

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Elaine @TheDarkPollyanna: And I

can say I absolutely know that.

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Because I was there for the first show.

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John Lee Dumas: That's crazy.

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Elaine @TheDarkPollyanna:

A very long time ago.

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John Lee Dumas: 13 years.

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Elaine @TheDarkPollyanna: Yeah.

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Wow.

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It's almost 14 now.

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John Lee Dumas: Crazy.

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It's wow.

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Elaine @TheDarkPollyanna: One thing

that, that to me is very important

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because I have to say as much as I heard

you say it and other people say it.

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I started out life very differently

and trying to go it alone and

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keep my head down, not let the

family get hurt, not bring anybody

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in if something wasn't right.

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And I can now say that is absolutely

the wrong way to do everything.

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No man or woman is an island, and it's

so important that we learn that because

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when you're vulnerable, when you open up.

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To others is when you are

actually the strongest.

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And I think that's so

incredibly important.

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Many returning service

members carry invisible scars.

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And I, I know something about those too.

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What would you say to the

civilians who wanna support them?

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But really have no idea how to

approach that topic of trauma or

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suicide risk in a respectful way.

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John Lee Dumas: So for me it's

one of those things where, we're

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human beings, we love stories.

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There's a reason why history broken up

into two words is his story, her story.

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Like we all have stories and, a lot

of soldiers and military veterans,

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they just wanna be heard, like they

wanna be heard because if they're

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asked by somebody who they care about.

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To, to be heard.

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Then they feel like they're

there like that, that it's real,

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that they have that support.

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So a lot of civilians try to avoid, those

conversations and try to avoid, maybe.

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Picking at that scab, so to speak,

that they may envision as there.

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And by the way, some veterans may not

wanna talk about certain things and

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may not wanna talk about anything,

and that's totally their prerogative.

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But I can tell you that if you

approach it in a respectful way of

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something like, Hey, listen, you mean

a lot to me, like I care about you.

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I'd love to hear more about your

story when you were in the military.

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Doesn't have to be, everything doesn't

have to be a lot of things, but

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if there's something that you feel

comfortable talking about or that you

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want to talk about, I'm here for you.

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I wanna hear that.

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I wanna listen to you, and then

just respect what they say.

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If they say, Hey, it's not

something I like to talk about.

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Listen, they're still gonna be

thankful and grateful that you asked.

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'cause it means that you care.

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It means that you see them.

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And then some of them might

be like, I'm glad you asked.

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It just, it really helps me

to talk about this stuff.

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So I.

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Let's go grab a coffee and I'll

tell you some stories and that's

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one thing that veterans do when

veterans get together, man.

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We just get together and we just

tell stories because it's fun and we

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resonate with it and it brings back

the good times and the bad times.

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And, misery loves company we can

talk about the misery that we

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had and different scenarios and

it's just better for everybody.

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And, sometimes it's just good

to talk about this stuff.

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Elaine @TheDarkPollyanna:

That's such a good point.

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And I think.

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Even being there with someone and

offering to listen is wonderful.

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If they don't wanna say anything,

just offer to stay and just be there.

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I say on this show all the

time, that when you share your

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burden, it lightens somewhat.

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Whoa.

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And I believe that.

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That's why people tell their stories,

because this is the one way you do lose

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a little of the baggage is when you share

it among those that you're traveling with.

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John Lee Dumas: I love that.

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Elaine @TheDarkPollyanna: Thank you.

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Thank you.

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I'm so grateful that you

agreed to come on the show.

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I am once again, really thrilled.

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That I met you when I did, and that I

have got to see you grow through the

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years and become a married man with a

darling little boy and a lovely wife.

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John Lee Dumas: Oh, 16 months old.

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Elaine @TheDarkPollyanna: Oh yeah.

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He's so cute.

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And I think it's just really

important for people to know.

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You can ask for help.

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It doesn't matter if you

are an entrepreneur on fire.

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It doesn't matter if you've

been doing things for years.

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It doesn't matter how long you've been

in the military because we lose four

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times as many men as we lose women,

and that's because men were taught.

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Don't show it.

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Don't do it.

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Don't say it.

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Just be stoic.

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Not a good way to be, and I think

it's critically important for

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us to get the message through.

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So what is one thing you can

leave our audience with, John?

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John Lee Dumas: It's a quote I love

from Albert Einstein, which is try

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not to become a person of success,

but rather a person of value.

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A lot of people are just chasing success

and they're leaving behind the fact

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that they have real value to give,

like the value that you're giving here

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today, Elaine, give value to people,

like how can you be of service of value?

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And when I started thinking in that

manner, everything changed for me.

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And I hope that lights a light bulb

for some people watching here today.

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And I, I respect your

hashtag, say their name.

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So I just wanna say Andrea,

Holly, Brian, Peter Margaret's.

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Ken Emma, you're not forgotten.

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Elaine @TheDarkPollyanna:

Thank you for that.

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I so appreciate you coming

to join us, everybody.

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You'll find all of John's

information below the podcast.

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As per usual, this has been

suicides and forgiveness.

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I'm Elaine Lindsay, and until we

see you again next time, make the

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most of your today, every day.

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Thank you, John, so much.

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Suicide Zen Forgiveness Stories re Suicide Loss | Ideation | Mental Health | Offering Hope |Empathy for All
Shattering Stigma Igniting Hope
Adding empathy and offering hope to end the silence, stigma, and shame. ~Elaine Lindsay©2021

Come along on the transformative journey of ’Suicide Zen Forgiveness,’ where host Elaine Lindsay, a suicide loss survivor and advocate, invites listeners to break the silence about mental health struggles. Elaine wants to remove the shame felt by all who are touched by suicide loss, ideation and mental health. With over 50 years of personal experience, Elaine offers candid conversations, heartfelt stories, and practical insights aimed at ending the stigma and offering hope. Each episode explores themes of resilience, gratitude, and growth, encouraging listeners to navigate life’s challenges with bravery and compassion. Tune in for a blend of wisdom, authenticity, and unwavering support on a group journey of healing, hope, and understanding.

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