Courage and Connection: John Lee Dumas on Military Life and Mental Health
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From Military Service to Entrepreneurship: John’s Journey of Resilience and Transition
In this compelling episode, John shares his journey from being an Army officer to becoming an entrepreneur post-9/11. He reflects on the impacts of 9/11, his service in Iraq, and the emotional and psychological toll of his military experience, which later manifested as PTSD. John discusses his transition back to civilian life, his battle with mental health, and how military principles guided his entrepreneurial ventures. The conversation highlights the importance of mental health support, the power of sharing stories, and the significance of surrounding oneself with a trustworthy support network. Elaine Lindsay emphasizes the need to ask for help and the value of sharing burdens among trusted companions.
00:00 Introduction and Background
00:23 The Impact of 9/11 on Military Career
02:23 Deployment and Mental Health Challenges
03:23 Transition to Civilian Life and PTSD
06:03 Entrepreneurial Lessons from Military Experience
08:51 The Importance of Mental Health Support
13:49 Final Thoughts and Gratitude
Bio:
John Lee Dumas is the founder and host of Entrepreneurs On Fire, the first and still only daily podcast in the world that interviews the most successful and inspiring Entrepreneurs. With over 160 million listens of his 4500+ episodes, JLD has turned Entrepreneurs On Fire into a media empire and is just getting started.
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:So now let's start the show.
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:I am so glad to be back.
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:I met my next guest back
in:
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:Actually, he was just starting
out as a podcaster, and I noted
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:even then he was dedicated,
incredibly kind and in all honesty.
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:To this day, he's still one
of the most genuine good guys
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:he could ever hope to meet.
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:I'm honored to bring you John Lee
Dumas, a renowned entrepreneur and
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:podcaster best known for his show,
entrepreneurs on Fire before his
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:success in the podcasting world.
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:Dumas served in the US Army for
approximately eight years, including
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:a 13 month deployment in Iraq.
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:As an Armor platoon leader,
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:John graduated from Providence College
in:
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:as an officer in the Army.
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:His commissioning class was actually
the first to enter service following
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:the events of September 11th, 2001.
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:Initially, he wanted to join
the Army Corps of Engineers.
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:But Dumas assignment shifted to armor
due to administrative disruptions
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:caused by the nine 11 attacks.
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:In 2003, John deployed to Iraq
leading a tank platoon of 16
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:men through areas such as R
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:having not ha,
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:sorry if I've pronounced those wrong.
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:Reflecting on his military experience
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:through areas such as Ramadi and Hania.
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:Reflecting on his military experience,
John has highlighted the importance of
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:making timely decisions, emphasizing
that a good decision now is better
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:than a great decision leader.
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:He also underscores the value of
humility and learning from experienced
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:team members, noting his reliance
on his platoon sergeant's expertise
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:during his early days as a leader.
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:These leadership lessons from his military
service have profoundly influenced
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:John's entrepreneurial journey shaping
his approach to business and mentorship.
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:I was lucky enough to reconnect
with John in January at Pod Fest in
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:Florida, and he was gracious enough
to agree to come on the podcast.
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:So without further ado, let me
introduce you to John Lee Dumas.
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:John, I talked about the fact that
you were commissioned, I believe
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:after 2002, and yours was the.
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:First class to enter service following
the events of September 11th.
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:I believe that is true.
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:2001?
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:Yes.
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:Wow.
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:Wow.
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:You were, originally you wanted to be
Army Corps of Engineers, but because of
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:the disruptions to do with the nine 11
attacks, you actually shifted to armor.
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:John Lee Dumas: Yeah, that's a
pretty interesting and quick story
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:that I'll tell you just 'cause I
think it, really reminds us of how
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:traumatizing that, that day was.
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:But in the summer of 2001, I was going
into my senior year, so we do what's
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:called six Weeks of Advance camp,
and that's training up in Washington
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:specifically Fort Irwin, Washington
states a little south of Tacoma.
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:And it was a really great experience.
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:I actually.
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:Performed very well.
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:I became what's called a top 4% cadet.
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:And the reason why that's relevant is
because it gave me the choice to choose
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:what branch I wanted to get into.
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:And so I chose engineers.
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:And I thought I was all
wrapped up with that.
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:And then of course, nine 11 happens and
it was a terrible experience overall.
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:But then we get called in a week after
and our commander says to us like, Hey.
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:This is gonna sound pretty
crazy, but it's true.
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:The part of the Pentagon that
got hit by the plane was the ROTC
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:departments and all of the records,
which by the way were all handwritten.
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:At the time it wasn't even computerized.
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:So we had sent in like paper
copies of that and that's how
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:they processed it back then.
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:So there was no backups.
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:They said it just got.
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:Vaporized.
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:Like it just completely,
it was a total loss.
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:So what they were doing now was
they were going to essentially
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:randomly assign everybody.
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:'cause they just didn't have time
to go back and do this because they
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:had other things to worry about.
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:Of course, post nine 11.
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:So that was the reason I got randomly
assigned armor and I survived.
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:So I guess I can say that, things
could have been worse, but I'll tell
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:you, it was it was a tough road.
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:My,
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:Elaine @TheDarkPollyanna:
I can only imagine.
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:You led a tank platoon during
a 13 month deployment in Iraq.
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:My father did 13 months in Aiden in
Yemen, and that was his first deployment.
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:Wow.
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:Back in 1953.
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:Things have changed a little.
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:What impact did that responsibility
and the high stress environment
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:have on your own mental wellbeing?
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:During and after service.
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:John Lee Dumas: During you're locked
in because there's no alternative.
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:You either just execute and
perform your mission or you're
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:putting yourself, and even more
importantly, your soldier's at risk.
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:So you just go into this weird head
space of just I'm just a soldier
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:and I'm going to follow orders,
and I'm going to give orders and
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:I'm going to execute the mission.
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:Now there's a lot of things
that are going on under the
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:scene, like below the surface.
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:At that point as well.
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:And for me I felt like the first
few years out of the Army when I had
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:got, when I redeployed back to the
states and then I, reintegrated and
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:I transitioned outta the military and
reintegrated into the civilian world.
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:I was like, man, I must have dodged
a bullets, like both figuratively.
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:'cause I dodged some bullets in Iraq,
but both figuratively and literally.
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:I dodged a bullet emotionally because
I felt like I was not dealing with any
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:PTSD that I was hearing was so common
and I felt very fortunate about that.
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:Now, fast forward just about a year I
enroll into law school, and law school
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:is a very high stress environment and
that high stress environment like.
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:Just popped a screw in my
brain that I didn't even know
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:was loose, and I experienced
severe PTSD, like severe trauma.
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:I was depressed, I was sad.
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:Like for me the feeling
was mostly just like.
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:I just don't care about anything and
that's actually a terrifying feeling.
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:'cause like when you care about stuff a
lot, like I used to I'm from New England
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:so I used to watch the New England
Patriots football and I would live or die
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:by the touchdowns, the wins, the losses.
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:Like it would make my day a ruin my day.
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:But I would be watching that them on ta.
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:I'd be like, who cares?
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:Like I have no emotion.
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:About this.
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:And that was my first tip off
of whoa, like something's wrong.
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:And so it took, therapy,
it took medication, it took
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:time to to get over the PTSD.
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:But I was able to do it, it did
cause me to drop outta law school.
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:I just couldn't take it emotionally.
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:And I went on a four month
backpacking trip in India to just
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:lose myself slash find myself.
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:And, I had a good time.
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:I wouldn't say I had any incredible
emotional experiences there.
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:It was just a good trip
overall, but nothing crazy.
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:And I'd say it wasn't really until
my early thirties that I really
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:felt like I was able to shrug
it off, for the most part, it'll
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:always be with me on some level.
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:I still think of, the four soldiers
that were in my platoon of the 16.
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:So 25% that gave the ultimate sacrifice.
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:That's always gonna be with me, and
that's always gonna be part of, the
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:emotional trauma and baggage that I carry.
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:Elaine @TheDarkPollyanna: Absolutely.
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:I call it the grief train.
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:Once we board, we're there for life.
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:We just sometimes get off at a stop and.
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:Bring on a little more baggage.
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:John Lee Dumas: That's a good analogy.
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:Do we ever drop off
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:Elaine @TheDarkPollyanna: baggage?
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:Sadly, no.
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:No, we
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:John Lee Dumas: don't.
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:That's too bad.
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:Elaine @TheDarkPollyanna: Now
one thing I'll say, like you
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:were in the army for eight years.
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:John Lee Dumas: Yeah.
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:Four active foreign in the reserves.
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:Elaine @TheDarkPollyanna: Wow.
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:And you have spoken even in your
entrepreneurial journey about
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:learning to lead by leaning into
your platoon sergeant and making
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:timely decisions under pressure.
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:How do you think the military
training prepares or doesn't prepare
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:soldiers for the emotional and
psychological toll of deployment?
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:John Lee Dumas: One interesting thing
that I learned as an officer, and
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:this was you know, from my platoon
sergeant, was that a good decision now
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:is better than a great decision later.
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:That's a very important thing for
entrepreneurs to absorb as well, because
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:if you don't have that understanding
in the military you might die.
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:'cause if you're paralyzed and you're
not making any decision, 'cause
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:you're trying to think of this great
decision and it causes no decision
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:right away, that is jeopardizing
your life and your soldier's life.
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:So listen, make the best decision
you can right now and move forward.
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:It might not be perfect.
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:It might not be great.
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:But a good decision now is better
than a great decision later.
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:And I took that into entrepreneurship
because I see so many entrepreneurs and
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:business owners, they're just paralyzed
with trying to come up with the best
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:decision, the best action, the perfect
idea, and that never really exists.
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:So they just stuck there.
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:It's called like failure to launch.
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:So for me, I never had that problem.
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:'cause I learned that in the
military and I just make.
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:Good decisions, really the best
decisions that I can make with the
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:information that I have at that time.
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:And then I drive forward
and I don't second guess it.
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:And sometimes it's the wrong decision
and then I pivot, I adjust, I back up.
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:I, make a change.
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:And then I drive forward again.
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:And for me, that's always allowed
me to keep moving forward.
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:Elaine @TheDarkPollyanna: I think
that's such an important point.
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:Because being a military brat myself,
I was around a lot of military
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:people and the onus is always on you.
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:The onus is always on you to
pick up dust off and continue.
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:I come from Scotland and have half
Irish background, so picking yourself
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:up and just going, it's all we knew.
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:You just didn't have an option.
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:And I think that's really important
because in the entrepreneurial world,
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:we can not just be paralyzed, but we can
overthink and over research and overdo to
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:the extent that we actually are stuck in
place forever, which is really not useful.
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:And something you talk about in the
entrepreneurial world which I think.
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:Is important for veterans.
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:You know anyone who's been
trained for combat and high stakes
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:decisions, you talk about shifting
your mindset to prioritize mental
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:health and ask for help when needed.
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:John Lee Dumas: You've gotta do it.
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:That's one reason why I say you're the
average of the five people you spend
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:the most time with, because those people
have to be individuals that you know,
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:that you like, that you trust that will
tell you when something's off with you,
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:and maybe can recommend, a resource or
a person that you can talk to, whether
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:that be a therapist or fill in the blank.
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:Like you need that support group around
you that you really do know and trust.
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:It's such a critical part to
not just every entrepreneurial
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:journey, but to the human journey.
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:And I think you know this, Elaine, that
I end every one of my entrepreneurs on
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:fire shows with that quote, you're the
average of the five people you spend the
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:most time with because frankly, it's true
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:Elaine @TheDarkPollyanna: And I
can say I absolutely know that.
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:Because I was there for the first show.
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:John Lee Dumas: That's crazy.
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:Elaine @TheDarkPollyanna:
A very long time ago.
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:John Lee Dumas: 13 years.
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:Elaine @TheDarkPollyanna: Yeah.
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:Wow.
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:It's almost 14 now.
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:John Lee Dumas: Crazy.
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:It's wow.
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:Elaine @TheDarkPollyanna: One thing
that, that to me is very important
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:because I have to say as much as I heard
you say it and other people say it.
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:I started out life very differently
and trying to go it alone and
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:keep my head down, not let the
family get hurt, not bring anybody
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:in if something wasn't right.
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:And I can now say that is absolutely
the wrong way to do everything.
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:No man or woman is an island, and it's
so important that we learn that because
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:when you're vulnerable, when you open up.
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:To others is when you are
actually the strongest.
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:And I think that's so
incredibly important.
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:Many returning service
members carry invisible scars.
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:And I, I know something about those too.
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:What would you say to the
civilians who wanna support them?
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:But really have no idea how to
approach that topic of trauma or
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:suicide risk in a respectful way.
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:John Lee Dumas: So for me it's
one of those things where, we're
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:human beings, we love stories.
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:There's a reason why history broken up
into two words is his story, her story.
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:Like we all have stories and, a lot
of soldiers and military veterans,
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:they just wanna be heard, like they
wanna be heard because if they're
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:asked by somebody who they care about.
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:To, to be heard.
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:Then they feel like they're
there like that, that it's real,
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:that they have that support.
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:So a lot of civilians try to avoid, those
conversations and try to avoid, maybe.
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:Picking at that scab, so to speak,
that they may envision as there.
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:And by the way, some veterans may not
wanna talk about certain things and
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:may not wanna talk about anything,
and that's totally their prerogative.
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:But I can tell you that if you
approach it in a respectful way of
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:something like, Hey, listen, you mean
a lot to me, like I care about you.
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:I'd love to hear more about your
story when you were in the military.
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:Doesn't have to be, everything doesn't
have to be a lot of things, but
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:if there's something that you feel
comfortable talking about or that you
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:want to talk about, I'm here for you.
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:I wanna hear that.
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:I wanna listen to you, and then
just respect what they say.
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:If they say, Hey, it's not
something I like to talk about.
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:Listen, they're still gonna be
thankful and grateful that you asked.
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:'cause it means that you care.
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:It means that you see them.
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:And then some of them might
be like, I'm glad you asked.
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:It just, it really helps me
to talk about this stuff.
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:So I.
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:Let's go grab a coffee and I'll
tell you some stories and that's
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:one thing that veterans do when
veterans get together, man.
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:We just get together and we just
tell stories because it's fun and we
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:resonate with it and it brings back
the good times and the bad times.
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:And, misery loves company we can
talk about the misery that we
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:had and different scenarios and
it's just better for everybody.
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:And, sometimes it's just good
to talk about this stuff.
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:Elaine @TheDarkPollyanna:
That's such a good point.
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:And I think.
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:Even being there with someone and
offering to listen is wonderful.
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:If they don't wanna say anything,
just offer to stay and just be there.
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:I say on this show all the
time, that when you share your
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:burden, it lightens somewhat.
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:Whoa.
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:And I believe that.
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:That's why people tell their stories,
because this is the one way you do lose
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:a little of the baggage is when you share
it among those that you're traveling with.
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:John Lee Dumas: I love that.
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:Elaine @TheDarkPollyanna: Thank you.
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:Thank you.
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:I'm so grateful that you
agreed to come on the show.
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:I am once again, really thrilled.
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:That I met you when I did, and that I
have got to see you grow through the
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:years and become a married man with a
darling little boy and a lovely wife.
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:John Lee Dumas: Oh, 16 months old.
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:Elaine @TheDarkPollyanna: Oh yeah.
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:He's so cute.
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:And I think it's just really
important for people to know.
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:You can ask for help.
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:It doesn't matter if you
are an entrepreneur on fire.
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:It doesn't matter if you've
been doing things for years.
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:It doesn't matter how long you've been
in the military because we lose four
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:times as many men as we lose women,
and that's because men were taught.
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:Don't show it.
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:Don't do it.
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:Don't say it.
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:Just be stoic.
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:Not a good way to be, and I think
it's critically important for
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:us to get the message through.
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:So what is one thing you can
leave our audience with, John?
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:John Lee Dumas: It's a quote I love
from Albert Einstein, which is try
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:not to become a person of success,
but rather a person of value.
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:A lot of people are just chasing success
and they're leaving behind the fact
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:that they have real value to give,
like the value that you're giving here
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:today, Elaine, give value to people,
like how can you be of service of value?
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:And when I started thinking in that
manner, everything changed for me.
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:And I hope that lights a light bulb
for some people watching here today.
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:And I, I respect your
hashtag, say their name.
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:So I just wanna say Andrea,
Holly, Brian, Peter Margaret's.
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:Ken Emma, you're not forgotten.
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:Elaine @TheDarkPollyanna:
Thank you for that.
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:I so appreciate you coming
to join us, everybody.
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:You'll find all of John's
information below the podcast.
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:As per usual, this has been
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:I'm Elaine Lindsay, and until we
see you again next time, make the
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:Thank you, John, so much.
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